Fix channel crash when publishing to a new stream (#12969)

The following scenario led to a channel crash:
1. Publish to a non-existing stream: `perf-test -y 0 -p -e amq.default -t direct -k stream`
2. Declare the stream: `rabbitmqadmin declare queue name=stream queue_type=stream`

There is no pid yet, so we got a function_clause with `none`
```
{function_clause,
   [{osiris_writer,write,
        [none,<0.877.0>,<<"<0.877.0>_-65ZKFz18ll5lau0phi7CsQ">>,1,
         [[0,"Sp",[192,6,5,"B@@AC"]],
          [0,"Sr",
           [193,38,4,
            [[[163,10,<<"x-exchange">>],[161,0,<<>>]],
             [[163,13,<<"x-routing-key">>],[161,6,<<"stream">>]]]]],
          [0,"Su",[160,12,[<<0,19,252,1,0,0,98,171,20,16,108,167>>]]]]],
        [{file,"src/osiris_writer.erl"},{line,158}]},
    {rabbit_stream_queue,deliver0,4,
        [{file,"rabbit_stream_queue.erl"},{line,540}]},
    {rabbit_stream_queue,'-deliver/3-fun-0-',4,
        [{file,"rabbit_stream_queue.erl"},{line,526}]},
    {lists,foldl,3,[{file,"lists.erl"},{line,2146}]},
    {rabbit_queue_type,'-deliver0/4-fun-5-',5,
        [{file,"rabbit_queue_type.erl"},{line,707}]},
    {maps,fold_1,4,[{file,"maps.erl"},{line,860}]},
    {rabbit_queue_type,deliver0,4,
        [{file,"rabbit_queue_type.erl"},{line,704}]},
    {rabbit_queue_type,deliver,4,
        [{file,"rabbit_queue_type.erl"},{line,662}]}]}
```

Co-authored-by: Karl Nilsson <kjnilsson@gmail.com>

deps/rabbit/src/rabbit_stream_queue.erl

@@ -926,8 +926,31 @@ readers(QName) ->
             {node(), 0}
     end.
 
+get_writer_pid(Q) ->
+    case amqqueue:get_pid(Q) of
+        none ->
+            %% the stream is still starting; wait up to 5 seconds
+            %% and ask the coordinator as it has the Pid sooner
+            #{name := StreamId} = amqqueue:get_type_state(Q),
+            get_writer_pid(StreamId, 50);
+        Pid ->
+            Pid
+    end.
+
+get_writer_pid(_StreamId, 0) ->
+    stream_not_found;
+get_writer_pid(StreamId, N) ->
+    case rabbit_stream_coordinator:writer_pid(StreamId) of
+        {ok, Pid} ->
+            Pid;
+        _ ->
+            timer:sleep(100),
+            get_writer_pid(StreamId, N - 1)
+    end.
+
+
 init(Q) when ?is_amqqueue(Q) ->
-    Leader = amqqueue:get_pid(Q),
+    Leader = get_writer_pid(Q),
     QName = amqqueue:get_name(Q),
     #{name := StreamId} = amqqueue:get_type_state(Q),
     %% tell us about leader changes so we can fail over